Saturday, January 26, 2008

Not Such A Good Weekend

I do not normally write about the things that go wrong in my life. I read other people's blog and their problems seem a lot worse then my little problems ever could be. I am very blessed with a great husband who loves me and 4 beautiful, healthy, wonderful children. And my problems could never compare to having a sick child or my husband or I having a life threaten illness, but something happened this weekend that is really bothering me. And not to bring down any of you with my problems, I just need to share my frustrations. And since I do not have a therapist, you are the lucky ones who get to hear it.
On Friday night my husband lost his job. My husband's boss called 11:45 P.M. Friday night and said,"I am closing the business and you do not need to come back." My husband has been having issues with his boss for months, so my husband decided to share his thoughts with his boss and then hang up on him.
You see, his boss is going through a divorce right now and is not happy that his wife is not taking him back. In his attempts to hurt her, he does not care who else is affected.
Of course his boss did not close the business, he went in the next morning to work without calling my husband to inform him they were open or to apologize. We suspected that because the thought of him missing an opportunity to make a buck is impossible.
This is not the first time he has pulled this, he has made other claims of not coming to work, selling the business and many other immature threats. The divorce is his fault completely and I can not possibly have one bit of sympathy for him.
Anyway my husband went to work and got his things and told his boss what he thought of him and his immature behavior. Well, of course after that conversation,my husband no longer has a job. I think my husband did the right thing because we have been putting up with this ridiculous behavior for months. And because of that, my husband has been looking for a job. He has not found one yet but we are hoping he is close to getting one. We are not really prepared for the financial burden of my husband not working. He did not take another job sooner because he was making good money and we were use to that income and not everyone in his profession pays what he was getting.
Anyway, if it was just my husband and myself I would not care so much, but I have 4 kids to worry about. My husband will find a job to keep food on the table but I do not know if we will be able to keep the house. And with the housing market the way it is, it will take a while to sell our house unless we take a huge hit on it.
The thing that bothers me the most is when people own a business and they do not care who they affect. My husband's boss could careless that he is messing with my four kids lives. He does not care about anyone else but himself. He has made terrible mistakes and now we get to pay for it. There is a lot more to the story but I do not know legally what I am a loud to write. My husband boss is a well know person in the community and since people know me it would not take long to figure out who my husband's boss is. And the last thing we need is a law suit.
So that was my great weekend. If I stop writing blog posts, you will know I had to cut off my internet service.
Thanks for reading my post, and I will go back to doing my craft posts soon.
I hope everyone else is having a great weekend.

45 comments:

Family O'Foxes said...

Oh, I'm so sorry!!! (((hugs)))

Your hubby is a hard worker (I can tell because you all are so well taken care of)....so, you know he will find another good job because he is a good worker.

You hang in there and hug your hubby and kids. I will be praying for you.
~Amy

Mari said...

I'm so sorry you are going through this. We had something similar happen about 10 years ago. My husband came home (on my birthday) and told me his business was being bought by a competitor and closed. It was devastating at the time but he likes his new job better than he ever did the old one. I hope this happens with your husband too - I'll be praying for you and your family.

Mamacita said...

Words seem like so little at a time like this, but I am so sorry and I will be praying for you and your husband.

Are You Serious! said...

This must be so hard! I hope everything falls into place, soon!

Andrea said...

Oh no! I'm so sorry...and yes, there definitely are those people out there who seem to care for no one but themselves. I'm so sorry you got stuck with one of those as your hubby's boss!!! I'll pray that your husband can find a SUPER job very soon and that you won't have to sell your house...or cut off your internet cuz I would miss you. :( I'll be thinking of you and praying for you!

My Goodness said...

Jen, I'm so sorry. It is so hard to depend on someone else for your lively hood...and nearly everyone has to, except for jerks like that boss.

I pray that everything comes together soon so you don't lose your home.

Jenn said...

I was so sad to read your post!I will be praying for your family during this time. Thank you for sharing with us so we can pray for you.

Melissa said...

Wow, not such a good weekend was an understatement. This is the "this sucks weekend."

I'm really sorry to hear about your hubby losing his job, I can just imagine how scary that must be. As for his 'boss' sounds like he's a real schmoe. It also sounds like he's going to get what is coming to him sooner rather than later.

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers and keep my fingers crossed that a job is right around the next corner!

Big (((hugs)))!!!

Michelle said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your husbands job loss.Thinking good thoughts about you and your family.

Corey~living and loving said...

Oh my word. I am so sorry this is happening. I feel helpless, as I am sure you are feeling the same.
I do hope that a door opens. I will send some prayers.
hugs.

Steph said...

So sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time right now. I'm sure it will all work out in the end, but I know you don't want to hear that right now. Be strong. You have lots of people thinking of you & your family, and sending tons of prayers upward!

Deanna said...

I'm so sorry you're going through this! It's not any easier when it's a HUGE company (such as one my dh works for) and they play games that affects your whole family. Hope he finds something soon! Hugs from me!

Pam said...

(((big hugs)))

I am SO sorry. I wish there was more that I could do for you, but I will be praying for your family. I am horrified that this man cares so little about the other people- but I do think your husband did the right thing.

You should not feel sorry that you posted this. Not all of life is happy, bright, and shiny. Sometimes blogging about it and getting it off our chest is just what we need.

I have enjoyed getting to know you and I am saddened your family must deal with this. I will be praying for a resolution that puts your family in an even better situation.

I wish there was more I could do.

Amber M. said...

I'm so sorry this happened to your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Kristina said...

Oh, Man! That sucks!
We're praying he'll find a good job soon.

When my hubby got fired (after telling his boss he was looking for a different job), he fell into the best civilian job he's ever had. We'll pray that something comes soon and that this will have been the best thing for you.

Lainey-Paney said...

When my husband lost his job, my son was 3 months old. We had to cut back dramatically!

Internet: gone
Movie channels: gone
Netflix: from 3 movies/month, down to 1 at a time
Phone: no bells, no whistles--caller ID gone, call waiting gone. We went to BASIC service
We made a bunch of cut backs.

It was difficult, but every little bit helped.

And truly, if we didn't have the financial support from our families, we wouldn't have made it.

Lainey-Paney said...

I'm so sorry you guys are going through this.

Sandra said...

I'm SO sorry you're going through this. I have already said a prayer and will continue to do so, I hope your husband finds a job soon.

You know just remember that when one door is closed, the Lord opens up another and usually MUCH better than the first :)

Hang in there, hugs,
Sandra

Jennifer said...

I will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Keep us posted and hang in there!

Brittany said...

Wow! Thanks for venting... that's what your blog is for: to vent! We've been through the same thing, and it is VERY scary. I will pray that your hubby will find a job quickly!

Jennifer said...

How very frustrating that must be. I will pray that your husband finds a new job (with a more stable boss).
Smiles!

Renee's Reading Corner said...

keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers!

Melanie said...

Wow- I am so sorry. (((((hugs)))))

I'm sure God has a plan for you and your family- and it apparently doesn't involove your hubby working where he was working. I will keep you in my prayers that everything will work out soon.

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david mcmahon said...

I'm so sorry to hear that. But it could well be the stepping stone to even greater success for your husband.

Please tell me he is in my thoughts, as are you and the children.

God bless. Be strong.

familyfun said...

I came across your site while I was trying to search for a project to do with the kids. (which you have some awsome ideas!)

First off let me start by saying how sorry I am. About 5 years ago we had a similar situation. We had just bought a house and I was a stay at home mom of a 10 months old and my husband lost his job. Now 5 years later he is at a job that he absolutely loves and is making double than the other job. I can now look back and think everything happens for a reason. At the time it was so scary. But we made it through it and I know you and your family will. I will be praying for you!

Beth said...

You know I am praying for you! I will continue to do so. I know that everything will work out.

Keep believing that God will see you through this and always know that He is there for you.

Pam said...

When I heard this at your house today, I felt sick for you. I hope and pray that something comes up soon!

Pam said...

Oh, and please keep us posted. Don't worry about sharing your thoughts and fears on your blog. That is what we are here for.

Marie said...

Hugs to you, my friend. I'm sorry about this situation. I know that something wonderful will come along for you husband. It really may be a blessing in disguise.
Stay positive.

Michie said...

I'm sorry to hear about your husband. I believe that things happen for a reason, though. You said your husband was putting up with a lot of junk - maybe this means he'll find a place now where he is given the respect he deserves. :)

Steph said...

Jen You have every right to vent in your blog and hopefully we can all be here if for nothing but moral support. You have a such a bright outlook on life and I am sure things will turn around you are in my thoughts and prayers! Keep you Chin up!

Michelle said...

Time to think about consulting a lawyer about a wrongful dismissal suit. Most law firms will offer no cost initial consultation. Some will even take on the case and accept a percentage of the judges final ruling instead of charging by the hour.

Here in Canada we have a government body (called the Labour Relations Board) that we can utilize, free of cost, and their decision is legally binding.
My husband :)

Family Adventure said...

Jenn, I am so, so sorry. That really sucks. Your husband's boss sounds like a very selfish man. I hope your husband will be able to find a better job, with a better boss, very, very soon.

I will be thinking of all of you and hoping you have really good news very soon!

Hugs! Heidi

Julie said...

Hi - Just called in from David's to read your post and to say we're thinking of you. I'm sure you know this, but take care what goes in print if you're looking at legal action. Its getting much easier for employers to google for info on employees (and they are doing this more often nowadays)due to search engines picking things up.

Every best wish

Don Mills Diva said...

Oh I'm so sorry. I just read this and I feel awful for what you must be going through. I am sending you strength and support and praying everything works out for your family...

lynn said...

Your husband's boss sounds like he's not living in the real world. However, you can't waste time thinking about him all the time. I'm sure your husband will find another job, but if not, i know some friends who this happened to and, for a while, he stayed home while she went out to work. Or, consider some home work for a while. Find out legally where you stand, but if no go there, i wouldn't give that boss' name house room.

Joanna said...

Oh my, Jen! I'm so sorry!!
Don't apologize for speaking what's on your mind. That is a huge blow.

Try not to let the 'what if's and what are we going to do' weigh you down. Easier said than done. I understand someone's action effecting you and your family. It's scary and makes you madder than a hornet. You will be stronger on the other side of this.

Praying something better comes along and quickly for you guys. What goes around comes around so ex-boss better look out.

MamaGeek said...

HOLY SCHMITT Jennwa. I'm so sincerely sorry. PLEASE know I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. And I mean that.

About a year ago my husband almost lost his job via outsourcing. VERY long story short, he ended up getting a much better job. I hope the same thing happens to you. When one door closes, another one opens.

That boss sucks rocks.

LaskiGal said...

Found you on Random Thoughts and saw that we share some of the same bloggy buddies. More importantly, you needed some good thoughts--here they are. I feel for you, but you sound like one heck of a person (a super wife and awesome mom to boot!).

I'm certain things will work out. Having faith and good thoughts (and the many prayers from your buddies out here) will hopefully make for a positive turn out!

And hey, if karma has anything to do with it, your husband will get an even better job!

dcrmom said...

I'm SO sorry to hear this. Hang in there, girl!

tommie said...

I am so sorry....hang in there.

girlymom said...

I am so sorry to hear this. I truly hope that your Hubby is able to find a suitable job sooner than later. Everything happens for a reason right- maybe the reason is just around the corner. Best of luck to you all.

Amy said...

I am SO sorry! I will be praying for you guys and hoping that things improve soon!

Sue said...

Jenn, I'm catching up on my reading and just saw this. I'm so sorry. I can relate, we are going through some similar stuff. I know how hard it is. Not even necessarily the financial strain, although that is part of it - but the uncertainty. The fear. I hope everything works out well and quickly, and if you need a friend to vent to - feel free to email me. I understand, believe me. Hang in there.

Jen said...

I'm just now catching up. I'm glad things have worked out...I hate you had such a rotten weekend. Sometimes God has us go through these times to see how strong we are. I'm praying for your strength girl.